ConTuesday! Threesome advisor
It’s Tuesday again, which means you’re probably here to read the secrets of the anonymous denizens of the internet. And I’m here to give them to you!
My wife, as we’re watching porn says ‘That’d be fun. I’d let another woman help me suck your c*ck’. Naturally, I’m interested in this possibility. I doubt she’ll make any effort to pursue it, short of my regular prodding. Yet, I don’t want to be annoying about it. We seldom go ‘out’ and when we do, it’s never anywhere we could people-watch and attempt to pick up a 3rd party. Besides, I highly doubt either of us would have the cajones to strike up a convo with that as the goal. After all, that really doesn’t seem to be the best option – to have an ulterior motive like that when engaging in bar conversation. I’d wager the success rate of that is nil. Aside from say, Craigslist or online dating sites, I wonder if there are any other ways I can expedite this sort of thing. Any suggestions?
Ah, the elusive unicorn. Finding a hot, bisexual woman willing to play with a couple isn’t necessarily the easiest thing to do (okay, maybe she doesn’t have to be bisexual per se, but she clearly needs to be open to the possibility of brushing lips with your wife across your very happy cock). People all over the world are on the same quest. Wouldn’t mind snagging one myself. Actually, though, don’t think about it that way or you’ll psych yourself out.
I’d say that if you’re really not interested in using the internet, make some new friends. To be more specific, join a group of friends that are bonded through a common geeky interest, preferably one that you share. In my personal experience, geeky groups are often comparatively open about sexuality, and are more likely to be polyamorous (this will eliminate your need to necessarily find a single woman to play with). Hang out with these people because they’re awesome, talk about sex with them because it’s interesting, and hope like hell that one of the women in that group is attracted to you guys (and vice versa).
Or, find a swingers’ club or party in your area. That will be faster and have a better chance of success, and you’ll likely still get new friends out of it.
I’ve been seeing this guy for over a year now and though he can go for HOURS, I’m not satisfied. He is smaller than most of the men I have been with and of recent I have found myself fantisizing about my ex after I leave him. I love the sex but it isn’t getting the job done and I don’t know what to do about it. We have used toys, changed the scheme of things, but nothing seems to be working. I’ve thought about maybe having a three some with the two of them, but then it would mean letting the ex know that I’ve been in a year + relationship with one of his best friends. Yes we have kept it quiet because it was supposed to be just sex, neither of us wanted to hurt him, but now I’m over hurting him and just wanting to use him. I told the ex today that he needed to come visit because I haven’t found a man that can do it like him. But I can’t let the guy I’m with now know that or he’d be hurt. What’s a girl to do??
The final question might be rhetorical, but I’ll try to answer it anyway. What is a girl to do? I’d experiment more with your current guy (it’s obvious that you already have, but more more more) and start dropping hints about a threesome to see if it’s a possibility. Since you’ll be in experimentation mode already it’ll be a relatively easy thing to bring up, although he still might not be interested.
I would also stop telling the ex that he’s the best you’ve ever had, though, because while that’s very flattering he might let it drop in the shock of realizing that you’ve been dating one of his friends. Then you’ve got trouble and feelings are hurt, and if nothing else you probably won’t be getting that threesome. Good luck!
If any readers have suggestions for either confession please leave a comment, because I am not the mayor of third party seduction.
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If your wife says it while watching porn, I’d venture to say she is actually willing to try it. The swingers club/party would be your best bet. I was in a relationship with a man that was into swinging and initially I was totally against it. After getting to know, on a total unsexual level, some of his swinging friends I opened up more. With doing that I made some GREAT friends that also helped open up the door to my sheltered life. Even though I’m not with that man anymore, I still have those relationships with the swingers we met. Just ask your wife when not watching porn or anything is sexual going on, if she really meant it? Bring it up in casual conversation. A sight we used was sls(swingers life style) and had great sucess.
Good luck
The Significant Other wants to try it. But she is embarrassed. She wants a Third. But she wants anonymity. I want to try it, too. But I am afraid. Of disease. Of dilution. Of her attraction to others. Of disease. Of pregnancy. Of an outing of my freakish self, in a career that cannot afford such an outing. Is she so much embarrassed, or am I? Still yet, I push. And thankfully, it is she who resists. The stale stalemate persists.
I totally understand all of that G. There is very much anonymity in being able to play with others. I work in the public eye and not a one of them know, other than the public that I have played with. I have played with bank presidents, managers of large business’, leo, ems, ff’s, CEO’s of hospitals…….we all strive for the anonymity. There is nothing to fear but fear itself. Though as a couple I say you have to really set down and talk about how far you are going to let things go. Because once the can of worms opens it brings so many more adventures your way. It isn’t for everyone to actually live…….. Best wishes to you.