ConTuesday! Homosexual Axe
Lately I’m really feeling the theme ConTuesdays. I don’t strictly get enough confessions to do a cohesive theme every week, but I can cobble something matchy matchy together every so often.
Cobbling something matchy matchy together? Say, that makes me think of RuPaul’s Drag Race. Which brings us to…
Our theme. Not drag, sadly. Just LGBTness.
It’s weird to think that I’ve only been admitting that I’m 50% lesbionic for a couple years. I mean, I’ve basically always known. Way more than half my crushes in memory have been on chicks, and I’ve asked every man I’ve ever dated if he’d be okay with me fucking women.
But, you know, I was straight.
Ah, the secrets of the human mind. As secrets go, though, there are better: other secrets that feature the gays and pansexuals and queers, oh my! But just like they say on that homotastic Reading Rainbow, don’t take my word for it…
Coincidence that you should mention guy on guy the other day… yeah, I have a big thing about it. My boyfriend confessed to me the other day that he’d been with a man, and wasn’t too keen on the actual sex but had quite enjoyed giving a blowjob.
Even though we’re normally quite open/kinky and do sometimes have guests in the bedroom, it seems pretty clear that he’s not comfortable even talking about this, let alone repeating it. But I cannot get the image of him sucking cock out of my head. *subtly humps desk*
I mentioned on twitter a while back that I’m partial to gay porn, especially when twinks are involved. I stand by that.
As for you, do you think he’d be interested in blowing you while you wore a strap-on? This suggestion has nothing to do with my long-standing fantasy to have a man suck my pretty, purple dick whatsoever. I’m just trying to be helpful.
I’ve recently become involved with a couple for the first time, and I’m liking it and them a lot. I was concerned about maintaining some level of equality between the three of us but we’re managing to keep the balance just fine… except for the sex.
Sex with him is silly and flirty and relaxing (and HOT), with lots of laughing and fun and even when I don’t get off, I don’t mind, because I’ve enjoyed myself.
Sex with her is serious and dramatic and usually starts out intense but eventually ends up just tense. At least one of us (often her) usually ends up uncomfortable and unsatisfied. Worst of all, she won’t talk about it (at least not with me), so I’m completely at a loss as to how to get us both to relax and let go a bit. Threesomes don’t help; I think they make her even more uncomfortable.
Don’t you hate it when there’s a problem with the sex and it seems like you’re not allowed to talk about it? Maybe you can anonymously send her a message (because I’m all for anonymity). It could go like, “Hi there. This is one of your sexual partners. No sneaky guessing which one, now. I’ve noticed that when we have sex it gets awkward and it seems like you’re not having much fun. If you would be open to talking about this issue, please blink occasionally for ‘yes’ and never for ‘no’. I will recognize this signal, and we can have a calm, adult conversation about our sex life.”
Otherwise? I’m really not a fan, but this rather sounds like a job for pot.
I’m a pansexual poly femme queer woman, laughably oversexed and loving every second. Men are always my primary relationships and I don’t like admitting why. I refuse to have a woman for my primary partner because the one time I tried it we succumbed to lesbian bed death. I didn’t have sex with my girlfriend for six months straight even though I was getting it elsewhere. One day I’ll be too old to attract new partners as easily as I do now so I cannot have my first commitment be to someone who will ultimately lose interest in filling my needs.
I’m a woman myself, FFS. Shouldn’t I know all women aren’t going to turn frigid?
It’s okay to primarily date men. Nothing wrong with it, even if you identify as romantically and/or sexually attracted to all gender variations. You can still identify as a PPFQW, and no one is going take away your pussy-eating merit badges. If your assumptions about women are at all valid, though, I feel sorry for straight men everywhere.
I realized about a year ago that I feel very safe, secure, peaceful and ”at home” when I hear the sounds of people fucking in whatever place I live.
I credit the gay guys I rented a room from back then for helping me discover this beautiful tidbit — I never would have figured it out back when I lived with my Mormon parents.
Some folks might complain about apartments with thin walls and the neighbors who rattle them every night. I’d love to thank them for the best lullaby a girl could ever want!
Yes, the Gay Sex Lullaby, enjoyed by my neighboring hotel patrons on many a magical evening.
You’re so welcome. The pleasure was all mine.
Do you have a sex confession to share? I’m dying to read it.
I’m thinking about the “actual sex” comment. I may be reading too much into word choice, but it sounds similarly to lesbians who insist tribadism is the only properly lesbian way to have sex. (Was acquantances with a girl whose girlfriend held this position, much to her irritation.) It’s getting caught up in the name of a thing rather than the substance.
And if that’s the way the guy sees it, yeah, I can see why he’d be uncomfortable with the idea of bisexuality; it would mean he’s stuck in the idea that the oral is just a warm up act to the “real thing”, which he doesn’t want, so the whole gets rejected.
This seems like it is ruining a lot of fun here for the two of them (and maybe a third partner). If the oral part is fun, well, enjoy it. (Of course, that depends upon a whole lot of meaning being written into just two words.)
@Orphan That’s a really good point. It seems that on the whole, LGBT-identified people have a wider range of things they consider “actual sex”, and straights are often stuck on intercourse=sex. There are plenty of gay and bi guys who don’t have anal sex, and they’re not virgins, people.
Of course, if the first confessor’s boyfriend is uncomfortable even talking about that one experience, I’d tend to take it as a bad sign for future guy on guy action. I have a hunch that there’s something else stopping him beyond the fact that he didn’t enjoy intercourse with that one guy.
And “tribadism is the one true form of girl love” is hilarious. And sad. I tried tribadism once. We laughed the entire ten seconds. Limiting my sex life to that would be like the worst joke ever, though.
Just wanted to say, I’m glad I’m not the only one to be turned on by my boyfriend’s confession of having enjoyed giving a blow job. Unfortunately, I haven’t been able to convince him that sucking my strap-on would be just as fun…