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30 Nov

Squirting tips

I don’t understand people who brag about female ejaculation.

Okay, wait. Yes I do. It’s because of how often many of us have been ridiculed and shamed and accused of lying/deluding ourselves about squirting. Sometimes that sort of thing makes you want to scream “FUCK YOU DO YOU REALIZE THIS MAKES ME AWESOME!?!?” It’s a defense mechanism, and it makes perfect sense. But I hate how it creates a culture where someone might feel like they’re falling short if they happen to not be an ejaculator.

Really, we’re just talking about an orgasm with some extra liquid added. It doesn’t make you automatically awesome. It doesn’t make you sexier1 or healthier or smarter or more financially solvent. You will probably not even get a sticker.2

It might, however, be an especially intense orgasm, and it is an interesting thing to experience. For many people, that alone makes it worth looking in to. That’s why I’m offering some squirting tips for those who want to squirt and those who want to assist others in their quest to do so. If you succeed at this, try not to brag too much. I will see what I can do about stickers.

You don’t need to know the basics of the physiology of female ejaculation to squirt, but they can help. I am equipped to give you only the very basics.

The g-spot exists. It’s actually the underside of the urethral sponge, which swells with fluid when arousal happens. It’s usually found a couple inches above the vaginal opening on the clitular facing side of the vaginal wall. Its texture is usually different from the surrounding tissue, making it fairly easy to find. Sometimes there will be gasps or squeals or other sound effects that help further clarify its location. Keep in mind, though, that every body is different.

Sometimes the urethral sponge releases this fluid through the urethra during orgasm. The orgasms that bring this about often come from g-spot stimulation, but not always. Clitoral stimulation alone can do it for some people. The release can be like a spray, a gush, or a trickle: they all qualify as squirting. The fluid isn’t pee, it’s most often clear, and it is harmless.

Whether squirting orgasms actually feel better than any other kind very much depends on the person. And in fact, from here on out I’m really just going to talk about personal experiences and observations.

  1. The first rule of squirting is: squirting is really, honestly no big deal. If you do it, it’s nothing to be self-conscious or worried about. If you don’t do it, you’re in the majority, and this in no way constitutes failure. My point here is that stressing out never helped anyone’s sex life.3 And it especially never helped anyone ejaculate. Relaxing is going to help you here with one tiny exception that we’ll cover later.
  2. The actual first rule of squirting probably should have been put down a towel. If not several. Do not forget the towels. You can skip this step if and only if you have rubber sheets or are doing this on a hard surface like a bathtub or an inspiring marble fountain.
  3. Start doing kegels now. Right now. Really. I’ll wait. Mighty PC muscles are only going to help your cause here. Apparently, when they’re toned your g-spot is more accessible, and has more sensitivity because of better blood flow. All I know is that I’ve been doing kegels since I was ten and I am a squirter, so that’s n=1. Science!4
  4. Get an njoy pure wand. If there is one toy in all the world that is responsible for more female ejaculation than all the others combined, it’s probably this one. Or, at very least, I cannot use it without squirting. I can practically not look at it without squirting. Both ends feel incredible: the knob (I usually prefer the smaller side, but both work) lands right on my g-spot perfectly, whether I’m thrusting with it or rocking the toy back and forth from its center. This is quite literally the best sex toy investment I’ve made. And, did I mention? Splashy.
  5. If you’re not ready to embrace the feat of engineering that is the pure wand, your best bet is a toy with a curved end that will easily reach your g-spot.
  6. When playing with a partner, I’ve found that simultaneous focused clit and g-spot stimulation tend to make me squirt. For instance, sucking on my clit while fingering me with those come-hither crooked fingers for a bit works like a charm. It also puts me in a pretty chipper mood.
  7. Sometimes a lot of orgasms have to happen before the squirting starts. Be patient and persevere. Could there really be a less tedious thing to practice?
  8. If you have enough muscle control that you’re able to tense just the area around your urethral sponge/g-spot during stimulation, that can be a helpful way to put yourself over the top.

Experiment. A lot. Alone, with a partner, with several different partners. If it doesn’t happen right away try doing kegels regularly for a month and then trying again. Try a new toy. If it’s important to you, keep at it. Keep calm and carry on.

But seriously? The pure wand. I’m telling you.

  1. Unless the beholder in question is someone with a thing for squirters, I suppose. []
  2. Note: I really should make stickers. []
  3. Unless, of course, we consider the case of Hippolyta Craig of Lubbock, Texas, but that is another story entirely. []
  4. Disclaimer: This is not science. []
  1. November 30th, 2011 at 11:09 | #1

    Thank you so much for this post! I am enjoying all sorts of different kinds of orgasms lately and would love to try to do this. I am pretty sure it has happened a couple of times while having sex with my guy, but I haven’t really consciously tried to do it. I think it will be a fun challenge for me, so thanks for the tips. I am getting started by working my kegels right now! *flex*

  2. November 30th, 2011 at 14:13 | #2

    Thanks for the hints. I have only ever helped women squirt by accident. I must have this power.

  3. December 1st, 2011 at 00:49 | #3

    Very Well said. Love this entry of yours. I myself never had an experience of squirting. A friend told me that she had experience it and she said it was os freaking insane pleasure that a woman should experience.

  4. LuckyLuckyGirl
    December 1st, 2011 at 09:43 | #4

    There has been recent evidence that lunges and squats are required complimentary activities to get the best benefit out of kegels. Kegels tighten the muscles, but lunges and squats keep the same muscle group(s) long and strong- think how yoga or pilates improves strength and tone as well.

  5. December 1st, 2011 at 15:05 | #5

    LOL @ stickers. Literally. Nobody within earshot asked but I was just waiting for them to.

  6. December 4th, 2011 at 16:44 | #6

    Now I want stickers. I have many, many towels… but no stickers. Stickers would rock!

    xx Dee

  7. December 5th, 2011 at 21:34 | #7

    hihih love this tip. Never experienced this in my whole life. Orgasms a few maybe.

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